Only guilty people need to worry about looking innocent

I don't really know where to start... A few days ago, an old friend got in touch with me to tell me that the man who raped me has a wife and child who are under investigation with social services. Well, the friend doesn't exactly know what happened, but knows that we have 'a history', and for all he knows he's just passing on the latest gossip, it's not a big deal, it's just news.

I don't know what to do. I feel like if anything ever happened to the child then it's my fault, but it's also my fault that his Dad is the way he is in the first place, he never hurt anyone before me, he never had a drinking problem before me, it must be something about me that changed him. I don't believe that he's a bad person and I don't have the right to judge whether he's a bad father. It was a long time ago and it's not as if I was a kid when it happened, I was 17 and he was only in his early 20's, that's not really the same as someone hurting a child.

Even if I wanted to do something, I don't have any proof, it's just my word and that doesn't count for much. There are so many times that I don't even believe myself, how can I expect anyone else too? There are genuine victimes out there and if I said anything officially I'd just be spitting in their faces. I don't want to be the girl that cried rape. It's not as if anyone can go back in time and see the whole thing from both sides, and there are always two sides, why should anyone believe mine, why should I?

If anything happened to that child I will never forgive myself, but neither do I have the right to speak out. I don't have a strong story or evidence or proof or any of the things that matter in reality. I can't just ring someone up and tell them everything and expect them to believe me, or to leave me alone afterwards. It won't be just one phone call, it won't be just one person, and he'll know if I spoke to anyone because who else would have? He'd just tell them that I was lying and it wouldn't achieve anything, "he said, she said", it never means anything, it never proves anything, and his family is destroyed for no reason other than me. He'll pass the assesment, convince them in the same way he convinced everyone that I was lying slut, and who's to say that he's wrong and I'm right?

I still believe that he has the right to get on with his life, that I should just keep quiet and stop making up awful things to make him look bad and myself look better.

I was getting my life back together and it's just fallen apart again.

Day-to-Day Tag

I do not know what this tag is actually called, heheheeee, but i saw it on caz's blog, find it ici i <3 her blog SOOO CUTE. It seemed fun so thought id give it a chance:

One: What do you order at Starbucks (as i call it Starbs)?

I always order a Mocha frappuchino (frappy) cause they are sooo yummy, i also loved at christmas they had a latte not gingerbread i think it was caramal nutbread or summin but it was soooooooooo nice.

Two: One thing in you're closet you cannot live without?

My dresses and my tank tops, i cant specify. actually i can. My jack wills playsuit, i where so much in the summer, its pink and blue striped and sooo comfy.

Three: One interesting thing most people do not know about you?

I find pictures more valuable then memories, i don't question them - i dont even ask to see them, i think they have a deeper meaning then most people think. or that i'm very self-consious but confident enough not to let it show. or if your looking for a more physical approach to this question i would say: i'm a terrible, absolutely TERRIBLE, hula hooper.

Four: Name one thing you want to do before i die?

Be happy.

Five: What is the one food you can't live without?

Well if i can say a drink: Orange juice but food would be cookie dough :)

Six: What quote/phrase do you live by?

'It is our choices who we really are more then our abilities' - Harry Potter 

Seven : What do you like/dislike about the blogging community?

like - the amazing people you get to know

dislike - the priority to remain perfect to try and please your viewers.

Eight: What is your most listened to song on itunes?

checking now hehehehe....

oo there is a few with equal amounts so i'll list my top 5

Love the Way You lie pt 2 - Cher LLoyd

Viva la Vida - Cher Lloyd

Kids in America - One Direction

Only Girl In The World - One Direction

Diamonds are Forever - Aiden Grimshaw

Nine: What kind of style would you define yourself as?

I would say classical and romantical..fave trends are lace, short shorts and dresses <3

Ten: Favourite number?

2!!!!! only 2, nothing else compares. i have so many reasons to prove why 2 is my lucky number. cba to list.

Eleven: Two (hahaha) hobbies?

hmmm i like writing songs even  though i cant sing em and baking...

Twelve: Two pet peeves (yay- 2 again)

hmmm

a) people with bad eating manners

b) Show-offs, they're so annoying, its like WE UNDERSTAND SHUT UP and then i b*tch slap them silly :)

Thirteen: Guilty Pleasures:

90210, pretty little liars, reading, One direction but my biggest one would be: 

MY LAPTOP, i feel guiilty cause i overuse it hahaha..

and a final picture to make you smile:

OVER GROWN KITTY

Paris Hilton Shoes

With her own clothing line Paris Hilton never ceases to amaze and impress. With her new shoe line, young women can enjoy the tremendous style, quality and affordability of these new Paris Hilton shoes.

"My Footwear is perfect for the fashion-forward young woman who wants to look and feel great from head-to-toe, without spending a fortune." - Paris Hilton

Who could say it better than the queen of fashion herself? It has been rumored that the queen bee owns over one thousand pairs of shoes, and none of them were under $150. With that said, she also has personally made sure that the shoes offered through the Collection are all under $160. The lowest marked pair of shoes in the collection is $60. The designer realizes that not everyone has thousands to spend on a new wardrobe and has worked extra hard to bring a shoe collection that offers fashion, quality and affordability to women everywhere.

Every Kind of Shoe Imaginable!

The new Heiress's line of shoes offers a little something for everyone, whether you are looking for something sexy, something practical or even sport shoes with a fashion flare. You can find just about everything you would ever need for your closet in this line, all with a tremendous amount of style. No matter what your personal style or mood, you'll always find a new pair of shoes that you just have to have in your closet from her collection.

Comfort with Heart!

Every pair of Paris Hilton shoes has comfort pads designed right into the style of the shoe so not only are these shoes stylish and affordable, but they are extremely comfortable as well. The comfort pads are shaped like a heart to add that girly touch to each pair.

Affordable!

The entire line of shoes ranges in price from $60 to $160 and that makes them incredibly affordable for even the fashionable teen that works part-time after school. Compared to other styles and brands of shoes that offer this much style and this much comfort, these prices are a steal. At these prices, you can have a whole new shoe wardrobe and still not break the bank!

High Quality

Her new line of shoes has filled a need for many 'fashion forward' women, young or old, she has done that by personally choosing all of the fabrics and materials for the entire line. She's chosen hip and fashionable fabrics and colors ranging from black leather, to pink patent to leopard print velvet. All materials are of high quality and make for a shoe that will be long-lasting and wear beautifully.

Authenticity

As a stylish way to ensure authenticity, all Paris Hilton shoes come with a pink sole. If the soles aren't pink, they aren't Paris Hilton shoes.

Paris Hilton's shoes offer it all - choice, comfort, affordability and quality - so no matter what your outfit, Paris Hilton's new line of stylish and trendy shoes has a quality pair of affordable shoes to match it perfectly.  Nermin Hadzikadunic

Choosing The Right Monokini

A monokini is an interesting piece of swimwear which originally was meant for the bold kind of women. It referred to only the bottom part of swimwear which some women opted to wear. This made it a rage at that time. So several designers got into the groove and began to come up with some interesting ideas for monokinis.

If you have decided to go with a monokini this summer season, then you have to be absolutely sure of the choice you are making. Monokinis are undoubtedly hot, but then will look so only when the body is proportionate. A smaller butt or small bust can make a monokini look pretty unflattering. Finding the right cut when it comes to a monokini is absolutely important. Here are some ways in which you can make the right choice.

For starters take a look at the different cuts that are available. Some of the monokinis will come with cuts that have material covering your navel. Others will have it with the navel being open and strips of material covering the sides. If you are on the slimmer side, choose a monokini that comes with larger cut outs of material. This will be the most flattering to your figure. What it primarily does is play up on the curves of your waist.

If you have a few winter tires around you, then you will want to go for colors that are bold and dark. Stay far away from white colored monokinis or those that come in metallic shades. Wearing monokinis in these shades will make your curves more prominent and may show more bulge than you actually have.

If you have been blessed with a heavier bust choose a V-neck cut. This will help your figure look a bit more elongated and consequently slimmer. Women with heavier busts are also best advised to opt for a swimsuit as this will give your body more support. Choosing a monokinis has to be done carefully as it will spell your success on the beach. You will want to make heads turn for the right reasons and not the wrong ones.  By: Casey Affleck

Spring Essential: The White Pantsuit

Darlings, a bevy of designers showed white pantsuits on the runways for Spring 2011. These suits are sharp as separates as well!
Photos via style.com.
Antonio Berardi
Behnaz Sarafpour
Christian Siriano
Isaac Mizrahi
Paul & Joe
Ruffian
Sacai
Salvatore Ferragamo
Tory Burch
Wes Gordon
Which suit has you swooning?
xoxox,
CC

Trailer Debut For "Resident Evil: Raccoon City"

Sneak Peek the first trailer supporting developer/publisher Capcom's upcoming video game, "Resident Evil: Operation Raccoon City", currently in development @ Vancouver-based studio, Slant 6 Games.

Since the launch of the first title 15 years ago the "Resident Evil" game series has sold over 45 million units worldwide to date.

"Resident Evil: Operation Raccoon City" delivers a third person team based shooter experience set within the "Resident Evil" universe and a reinterpretation of the events depicted in "Resident Evil 2" and "Resident Evil 3".

"It is September 1998 and the action centres once more on the ill-fated 'Raccoon City' and the horrific consequences of the deadly 'T-virus' outbreak from the 'Umbrella' facility. With a cover up required, Umbrella orders an elite team into Raccoon City to destroy all evidence of the outbreak and eliminate any survivors. Hearing of this plan, the US Government dispatches its own special forces to uncover any evidence that exposes the cause of the viral infection and Umbrella’s actions. Players take on the role of an 'Umbrella Security Services' soldier, competing alone or in four player co-op in a battle against all the competing forces at play in Raccoon City..."

"Resident Evil: Operation Raccoon City" will be released Winter 2011.

Click the images to enlarge and Sneak Peek "Resident Evil: Operation Raccoon City"...

Cocktail Dresses For Women

Undoubtedly, a woman has to work on every part of her body to look attractive. However, at the end it is the dress which if wore properly completes the perfect picture. Of the different aspects of a woman like the hair, or the make up, or the smile, or accessories, it is the lady's outfit that lures and helps gain attention in the crowd. For a party or mutual gathering, a cocktail dress is a must, irrespective of the weather, if its cold weather or some other problem has cropped in.

However, generally women get confused between the dress and the evening cocktail dress, therefore, let us first distinguish the two and clarify this confusion. A cocktail dress is basically meant to be worn to social formal events, such as receptions, office meetings, or social gatherings. Typically, the dresses should not have collars and they come with or without sleeves. The dress is considered to be more elaborate and also more sophisticated than the ordinary dress but it is also less elegant and formal than the usual evening dress.

The benchmark for the cocktail dresses is that they are worn in the events or gathering that begin before evening i.e. before 7 p.m. cocktail dresses are expected to be short till the knee, quite decent, definitely good tailoring and should be of standard quality. These dresses are generally made up of the satin, the velvet ottomans, the stain, the silk or even the lace, means of elegant fabric. Styling in cocktail dress represents elegant and a perfectly feminine look. You should give less importance to the accessories; just a string of pearls will work and add to the beauty. Nowadays, the cocktail dress is addressed for the special events and occasions which make use of the dress code like a family gathering, an office party, reception etc.  Andrei Ilie

Womens Fashion Tips For Spring Fashion

When it comes to womens fashion in order to stay in fashion you have to watch each season's runway designs so that you can make sure that you are current and up-to-date. With that in mind, now that we are getting close to the end of snowstorms and close to warmer weather it is time to update your spring wardrobe so that you are prepared from the first time you step out your door into the breezy fresh air of spring. In order to get to this point however you may want to take a look at the following trends and tips for dressing right this spring.

First of all, this spring the military designs of winter will carry over, only this time they will worked into lighter materials. You cannot go wrong with any spring jacket or raincoat that has a military barred style down the front or buttons across the breast. Although you can still get away with short hipster raincoats, the style is slowly switching towards longer below the butt length and even down to the knee if you pair the coat with a nice pair of suede or leather boots to lengthen your legs.

Next up in spring designs is the abstract trend, which is also sometimes referred to as the architectural design, and is lighting up the catwalks across the globe. The essence of this womens fashion trend is sharp cuts and accents that really make a shirt, dress, or skirt look sharp, edgy and modern. Traditionally if you stick to soft hues with sharp black edging or accents you will be ok, but if you want to push the fashion envelope you may want to create your own abstract clothing by pairing solids with sharp jewelry that stands out across the clothing.

Speaking of dresses, this season in womens fashion length is very important as very short and very long is way out. Although last autumn may have been filled with tights and short sweaters creating the mini look, minis are still very much out and you need to be careful to choose a more modest length if you want to be in fashion. While mid thigh lengths are ok, the best cut for most dresses and skirts during spring will be gently above the knee although there is room for a little variation. Extremely long is also back out so try to avoid the flowing look.

Finally, if you the last thing that you will need in your closet this spring are some floral prints, but not the large floral prints that make you look like drapes. Instead, choose floral prints that are small and detailed and appear more like prints then flowers. Pair this look with a military jacket or tunic shirt and you will have a look that will easily make you pop out to anyone walking by on the street. Toss in some boots and you will be just about as close to the runway as you can get while strolling through your daily routine.  Anna-Louise Jones

Prom Dresses for 2011 - Shopping for It

Prom dresses for 2011 or for any year as well shouldn't be so complex to buy. You have to know your budget plus you've got to stick with it.

Doing a lot of research can be extremely useful, magazines for teens ordinarily have a great deal of promotions for Prom clothes and outfits you may buy. The internet is also a good way to look for gowns. Even if you can not have the exact gown that you really like for yourself, exploring offers you whole lot ideas on the style and color which gown you probably like. Keep in mind to try on plenty of different types as you can. The outfit you never might have guessed that could match you may just be the one that suits you perfectly. So test it on, gowns appear different on a hanger and definitely looks different on you.

When shopping for your attire for your prom, bring your sibling, your mother or your close friend. Someone that will give you a true opinion can even be a fantastic shopping companion, they do not only help save time, nonetheless they save your hard-earned money from being spent on anything pointless or something unsuitable for you. Most of the time, the clothes that we like don't fit us and we need somebody to inform us to get something different. The truth hurts but an ugly attire even hurts more!

Buying dresses in the mall also provides you with a choice of asking the aid of a sales team. Ask them for your design, your size along with your favored color so they can very easily pin point where it truly is inside the shop. Sales persons will also assist you in zipping up your gown and putting it back in the coat hangers, this should conserve additional time and energy. Also, listen to their advice. Sales persons have become familiar which style and designs typically fit a body type. These people furthermore recognize which outfits are hot and still in fashion, they are fully aware of the supply well so listen to whatever they say is completely new and what exactly is outdated. Think about them as your own personal shopper. When you purchase a dress, let your pals be aware of it thus there would be absolutely no accidents of getting the very same gown for that event.

The best months to purchase a prom dress will be the months of January and February. This is the period when the assortment is greatest so try to shop at this time for much more assortment. Furthermore, it is good to purchase your attire one to two months ahead to allow time for just about any alterations. Almost any dress you get off the rack has to be altered so as to fit someone perfectly. Always purchase your shoes before you decide to have the outfit modified in order to go with the shoe height with your dress' hem. Remember to purchase your other accessories as well to be able to see right away if everything else goes well with one another.

Shopping for prom dresses for 2011 doesn't need to be expensive. A stunning outfit doesn't immediately imply expensive, nor high-priced means greater. If you have a budget for your special night, make sure to stick with it. There are many online shops that offer low-cost yet fashionable gowns. Check out auction sites online, you may just discover that dress there.  Melanie Perkins

Winter Coats for Men

Everyone has a few common reasons why they love winters as much as they do. Other than the holidays, there are so many other things to look forward to, like shopping sales, gatherings, vacations and parties! But if you are going to enjoy these activities, wouldn't you like to be dressed perfectly for them? Even though you are wearing some killer men's clothing inside, you don't want to freeze in the cold just wearing that. And for this reason, there are some very classy winter coats for men, which can be used as formal, casual and party wear.

They are both warm and stylish, as they are made to give your attire a great look, no matter where you are dressed to go. To give you a few ideas about what to choose, we have some options mentioned in the following paragraphs. Take a look and pick your favorite!

Winter Jackets for Men

Winter clothing is very popular among men for the simple reason that a winter coat/jacket worn over absolutely anything can make you look sexy and keep you warm. According to your fashion instinct, there is always a good color, length and a pattern of clothing that looks good on you. And when you find something like that, well, you can't just let it hang in the store!

The only two criteria about winter coats for men are that they should provide the right amount of warmth and look great over anything you wear. You can also make this choice depending on the designs of these jackets which can either be used as formal, semi-formal or completely casual men's fashion. So, take a look at some of the best winter coats for men and make your choice.

Pea Coats or Reefer Jackets

One of the most brilliantly designed and "can wear over anything" types of winter coats for men are pea coats and reefer jackets. They are long coats which are either above the knee, knee or full length winter jackets for men which are made from materials like wool, leather and sometimes a mesh. Pea coats are, however, slightly different from reefer jackets. Pea coats are usually full length and have a formal look and reefers can be above the knee also.

The materials used to make them can also differ according to the style and brands. There are various price ranges for these types and you can find some cheap winter coats for men, as well as some plus size winter coats. They look great when worn over formals, semi-formals as well as casuals. These are great options for business men, students, working men, for someone who's buying groceries too. The colors you can choose can be navy, charcoal and black for pea coats and reefers.

Quilted or Puffy Jackets

If you are looking for something that will just keep you extremely warm irrespective of how it looks, you should definitely go for these puffy jackets which are also called quilted. The reason being that they have a woolen layer on the inside and have a polyester fabric layer on the outside. These jackets are surely considered as winter coats 2010, as they keep you warm from the extreme cold temperatures in snow areas and look good from the outside as well. They are also used as snow gear jackets by skiers or people who live in very cold countries. Quilted jackets are available in hooded and non-hooded designs making them convenient for regular use by students and as casual wear.

Leather Jackets

When you are considering winter coats for men, you have to think about leather jackets as this is one of the warmest materials used for winter wear. With the various types of leather used to make these jackets there are a wide variety of designs made as well. You can make reefer jackets with leather to have something formal to wear or there are designs like Bomber jackets and Motorcycle jackets, which are used as casuals (remember the Top Gun look). Colors like black, brown and navy are some of the most popularly used in leather clothing. They are also known as the warmest winter coats for men, as leather cannot be compared to any other material.

With these various types of winter coats for men, I think you have a wide choice to pick from. So, go ahead and pick your favorite winter coat and flaunt it over absolutely any fashionable wear. By Aparna Jadhav

Short Hairstyles for Women

From Meg Ryan’s varieties of short cuts to Victoria Beckham’s new chic looking one… short hairstyles for women have always been in vogue. In fact, if you flip through the pages of hairstyle history, you will find that over the past hundred years the shag, the chop, the pixie, the bob and various other classic short styles have remained in fashion through the years.

Women who have opted for going short have always known that a well-crafted short style gives them the opportunity to try out practically endless styling possibilities. You can experiment with the wide array of hair styling products at hand these days, ranging from waxes and gels to sprays and creams. You can go stick straight, scrunch, spike, curl, back-comb, or wave, according to your mood, with the range of irons, blow dryers, pins, clips and accessories. For instance, hot flat irons can be used in a variety of ways on small sections of hair, which can then be layered, creating edgy and unusual styles.

Because short hair is so beautifully flexible, it works with practically any texture or type of hair from thick to fine, wavy to curly and straight, or even a combination; hence, short hair is never boring. Plus, it’s so convenient, especially the short pixie cuts – the ultimate in wash-n-wear hair. Just lather it up, dry with a towel, finger pick it, and air dry – it can all be done in a jiff. Great for the ultra busy girl with no time to deal with complicated long hairstyles.

Short hairstyles are also usually instant wear. With the right cut, the hair simply slides into place, and yet looks amazing. Not only do short hairstyles lend a more professional air, but they can often also be the last word in chic, elegance and sophistication.

That said, here are some of the most popular short hairstyles for women:

Blunt Bob

If you have fine hair, this style will make it look thicker. However, it does not work well with curly hair, unless you’re willing to straighten your hair frequently. Get your hairstylist to create a few bangs over the brow and to give you a blunt line. If you choose to get a more severe fringe, it will sharpen the overall look.

To maintain: To keep it in shape, get a trim every 6 weeks. You can blow dry it to style and use a flatiron to finish.

Short Bob

This style looks best with square or oval shaped faces. If you have a very round face, get a longer version. This hair cut is ideal for very straight hair. To get that gamine, face-hugging effect, the longest length of a piece of hair should be about one inch above the chin.

To maintain: To keep this look well maintained you will need to visit the salon about once a month.

Curly Bob

If you have a round face, the hair should be kept longer than chin length, and a little longer at the nape of the neck, to create a balanced look. If you have spiral curls, make sure that your hairstylist doesn’t cut it too short. Curly hair tends to retract, hence keep the length at your cheekbones. You can get a choppy effect by cutting each individual curl.

To maintain: This cut usually maintains its shape, so you will not need to use a bunch of styling products. You will need to trim it about once in six weeks.

Short Shag

This style is great with most types of hair, except very fine or very thick hair. It looks especially good on faces that are delicate with small features. The longest length of hair should be at the crown.

To maintain: This style tends to grow out fast, so you’ll need to get a trim about every 4-6 weeks. Styling this cut is very easy; all you need to do is use a volumizer to pump up at the roots when the hair is damp. While blow-drying it, tousle it with your fingers. Finish it off by kicking out the ends with your fingers.

Pixie Cut

This creates an out-and-out messy and choppy effect. Also known as ‘Elfin’ cut, it is a short, layered cut. This style emphasizes the face, so you need to feel good about your features and skin if you want to try this style out. Basically, the hair is cut short, and at different lengths; hence, there are no even or blunt pieces of hair. This has the effect of creating close-cropped layers of hair that frame the face. Think Mia Farrow in ‘Rosemary’s Baby’ or Twiggy.

To maintain: You’ll need a monthly trim to keep it looking shapely. To get a girly effect, you can push the bangs to one side.

Long and Short Cut

This looks great with an oval shaped face. If you have straight, fine hair, this cut will add amazing body to it. You can create a rocker vibe if you have wavy hair. Keep the layers choppy all around and longish at the back. You can add uneven, heavy bangs, which you can either keep on your face or tuck behind the ears.

To maintain: To keep it looking fresh, you’ll need to get a trim every two months.

Short hairstyles have the ability of creating a new image instantly. Whether you want to show off a new, hot wardrobe or a new weight loss, there’s nothing like getting a new short hairstyle to really set it off. It can add new verve and vibrancy to your image and looks. By Rita Putatunda